MENTAL HEALTH

Self-critique

Did the relationship end? Disappointing test results? Not losing extra pounds? Well, don't forget to criticize, blame, and belittle yourself most harshly.

Regular self-criticism is psychologically devastating and has been linked to depression, some anxiety and personality disorders, and eating disorders, among others.

Some people may try to convince you that you are worthless and unworthy, that you should become more compassionate to yourself, that you should view mistakes as learning opportunities, and that your view of punishment is useless and wrong. They may recommend therapy or CBT books like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy For Dummies or Coping With Low Self-Esteem by Melanie Fennell, but don't listen to them. This article is about how to be miserable, so this is my best advice: remember that there is no faster way to misery than to struggle as much as possible.

Avoidance

Are you afraid to go to social events? Do not go. Are you nervous about meeting at the office? He called sick. Are you afraid of flying? Avoid airplanes. Think you deserve a raise but are afraid to ask your boss? don't ask him Are you prone to panic attacks and afraid of panicking in public? Stay in the room. As someone, you know but are afraid to ask her out for fear of rejection? don't ask him

Avoidance brings short-term relief but long-lasting pain. This erodes your confidence, validates your fears, and makes you even more anxious. It keeps making your world smaller and preventing you from living the life you want.

Overcoming the avoidance habit is usually the first thing I do with clients, but that's fine. If you want to feel insecure and unhappy, I can't recommend avoidance enough.

worry

Worry keeps me safe, worry prepares me for the worst, and it's irresponsible not to worry - many studies confirm that chronically anxious people have a positive view of worry and see it as a form of problem-solving and emotional regulation. Worrying people also have negative beliefs about worry; they see fear as something that cannot be controlled and therefore worry about fear.

This belief is wrong. Fear is controllable and will not protect you; it just makes you miserable and, well, worried.

Likewise, most concerns are not met. And when they do, people almost always do better than they think.

Therefore, most worries are a waste of time. These are careless habits that rob you of your happiness. So keep worrying and give it as much time as you can.

Discounts for positives

Does someone you know to compliment you? They are very good. people at work like you? They don't know who you are. Did he win a sports competition? Fine, but you can do better. Someone said you did XYZ well? Anyone can do it.

CBT researchers describe low self-esteem as self-prejudice. As with any prejudice, you are quick to find evidence that supports your negative beliefs, but reject evidence that contradicts them.