What is Self-Compassion?
What is Self-Compassion? When we think of compassion, we usually imagine it as something directed towards others. Compassion is both that wish we have for others to be free from suffering and the causes of suffering and the associated sense of happiness. “Compassion requires both sensitivities to the suffering of others and a deep commitment to try to prevent it and relieve it.” (Dalai Lama, 2001) Self-compassion is the same but is directed towards ourselves instead of others. Self-compassion involves showing kindness towards ourselves in the face of all our past mistakes and failures. We relate to the part of ourselves that we find difficult to accept and show them the same kindness we would offer to a deeply loved friend or relative. Is Self-Compassion selfish? Self-compassion is not the same as self-indulgence; e.g., indulging in excessively sugary food may not be the kindest thing for our long term health. It is also not the same as self-pity, as self pity is not grounded in inter...